Dear Lola,

I am a young female college student who is preparing to enter the workforce. During my mock interviews, one of the common pieces of feedback is that I need to wear makeup. My attire is appropriate, my hair is never mentioned, even my answers to interview questions are given great marks. Yet each mock interviewer has said my lack of makeup can be viewed as unprofessional. I find it absolutely distasteful that I’m expected to slap on a face of paint in order to showcase myself as a competent worker. Even worse is that I’m entering a very male-dominated industry and all of the interviews have been conducted by men. Am I just going to be seen as eye-candy or can I go without makeup and be taken seriously?

Manager NOT Mistress

Advice for humans. They need all the help they can get.

Dear Manager NOT Mistress,

Just when I think I’ve read it all, I get a letter like this. I really wish you had mentioned how old these interviewers were, but I’m guessing they are at least 10 years out of college if they’re appointed with helping students hone their interview skills. To be honest, I’m really hoping they are in their mid-fifties or older because then I could write it off as a generational difference of opinion in how ‘professional’ women should present themselves.

That makes their suggestions disappointing, but not completely abhorrent.

Either way, I think you need to approach the school system that has arranged these mock interviews and have a discussion with them about the people you’ve been paired with for guidance. Women have more to offer the workplace than their looks and it sounds like you are presenting them with an equitable package to your male counterparts. Your attire is professional, your hair is tidy, and your face has skin on it.

If the interviewers want to see makeup so badly, they should apply it to themselves each morning.

In all reality I am sure many readers would disagree and say that to get a job you have to play the game. That’s for you to decide. Maybe, just maybe, not playing the game will lead you to a job where the boss doesn’t care about your blush choice and instead values your work ethic. Just make sure to show up with skin on your face.


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18 replies on “Dear Lola – Manager, not mistress…

  1. I’ve never worn make up to an interview, I don’t wear jewellery either (I tend to fidget with it when I’m nervous and that’s never a good look.) I have always, always remembered to keep my skin on though. And maybe a few clothes on the other bits of my body!

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  2. I’m shocked that this is even a thing! As if! God I’m never leaving my current job, I look like crap most days and know one cares! Lol

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    1. I would be in so much trouble with a dress code that included make up. I can barely wear anything on my face because my skin is so sensitive that I get a rash anywhere I put make up on. Imagine having to explain that to a new employer because their dress code is so antiquated!

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    1. I agree, skills and work ethic are much more important than if the person is wearing mascara. I am never bothered by people who want to wear make up, but I am bothered by people who demand others wear make up because of their own opinion on what looks acceptable to them. A person’s face is their face, as long as it is clean that is all that matters.

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