Everyone has the key to a successful marriage. Whether or not that key actually works for a marriage is another story. My favorite “key to marriage” trope is compromise. Everyone touts compromise like it’s the second coming of Christ and your marriage will be peaceful and harmonious if you participate in it.

That’s not exactly true, is it?

Let’s face it, compromise is a big pile of loser mixed with the bitter taste of failure. It ends in a bowl full of “no one wants it” and no one really feels like a winner. You just feel like not as big a loser.

I would like to give you the flip side to this advice. Fight. Fight hard, fight long, fight loudly. Someone will come out the winner, someone will come out the loser. But at least you won’t be sitting on the couch at the end wondering why you both feel like losers.

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It’s like those sports kids play where there is no scoring – everyone is a winner and no one is a winner. Who wants to feel like that?!

Writer’s note: In the interest of not seeing every single one of my friends’ marriages end in divorce, I think it should be said that this post contains a lot of sarcasm. Hubster and I do compromise…we take turns winning the fight. 

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12 replies on “Why you shouldn’t compromise in your marriage…

  1. Wow, this is a great post. I’m not married but in a long term relationship so can relate to this, even without the wedding ring and bit of paper. You’re right, I’ve never looked at it like this before. I’m gonna start becoming more stubborn. #eatsleepblogrt

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  2. Now I’m quite competitive, but we definitely see the benefits of compromise! Afraid I have to disagree. I don’t feel like I’ve ‘lost’ when I don’t get my own way; I’d prefer to come to a solution which we are both happy with. That being said, we’re generally in agreement about most things which probably helps! Interesting to read your point of view though! 🙂

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  3. You’ve made a good point here. With us is so that we take turns, soometimes it’s my way sometimes his. Sometimes we fight sometimes it’s just an agreement. I don’t push my head trough the wall to get my way- it’s a waist of time for me. Usually in the end he sees that I was right and he wasn’t;))))) I like fights – not just for the win but also for something better;) #DreamTeam

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  4. This is interesting as we’ve been talking about it recently – we used to do everything together at the weekend, but now we take turns and each have time to ourselves. It seems to be working and our daughter loves the one on one time too. Thanks for linking up to #dreamteam x


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