Dear Lola,
I was recently out to tea (lunch) with a friend and we had a disagreement over how to politely decline something that is offered to you. The server offered me a wine sample and I replied with a simple ‘no, thank you’ and he walked away to do other things. My friend told me that I was rude and should say ‘thank you, no’ in the future. I was baffled by this because they are virtually the same exact thing, said in a different order. My friend believes that leading with the negative is offensive so you must start with the thank you.
Sincerely,
Tea Time Terror
Dear Tea Time Terror,
You are a menace to society! Next we’ll see you swinging from the restaurant chandeliers while wearing underwear on your head. To follow your friend’s thought pattern would mean that the negative is left for the end and could be perceived as rude or offensive since it’s the last impression the person has of you before walking away.
Your friend needs a hobby if this is the only thing she could talk about.
I can think of 30 topics that would be more fun to dwell on and that includes a veterinarian visit where they needed to wear rubber gloves! Terrible things have happened to me and I would still rather revisit the trauma than dwell on the simplest statement you will ever make in your human life. It’s not like you muttered ‘thank no you’ or the even more weird ‘you no thank.’
Tell the waiter to fuck off, that should liven up the next luncheon conversation!
When your friend’s mouth drops open in shock, try tossing a few treats in. Double points if it doesn’t hit her teeth on the way in! If that doesn’t work then I think you need to seriously consider bringing up your most recent pelvic or prostate exam. If you still need help with her, write me back and I’ll tell you what happened to me after the vet put on her rubber gloves. Spoiler alert – it wasn’t to give me a cookie.
♥Lola♥
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But if you say ‘Thank you, no’, the waiter might start pouring before you get the No out, and then be embarrassed by his faux pas! What a dilema! (yet both are better than telling the waiter to F.Off 😉 #GlobalBlogger
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Imagine the poor waiter mid-pour and then panicking!
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“Tell the waiter to F off…” Hilarious. That really made me smile this morning . Thanks. Haha.
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Glad we brought a smile to your face!
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“Tell the waiter to F off…” Hilarious. That really made me smile this morning . Thanks. Haha. #anorganisedmommy
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That topic is almost like arguing over whether the toilet paper should go over or under the roll. Move on, already!
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I know! Such a weird thing to point out to someone at lunch.
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I think that what you initially said is absolutely fine and not rude at all. As long as thank you is in there somewhere it polite.
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I agree, she said all of the appropriate words!
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I do like no nonsense or should that be nonsense no. Life is too short to stress that too much! #GlobalBlogging
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Can you imagine what the friend must think about during the day? Does she panic over every little thing she says to other people?! I do think it would be funny if the letter writer told the waiter to fuck off just to see her friend’s reaction.
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Lola’s F Bomb had me in absolute stitches! She really is the wisest pooch. #GlobalBlogging
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She rarely swears, but when she does they are always a doozy! 🤪
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I think that what you said is totally fine. How is that rude???? Geez! Life is really too short to worry about stuff like that!
#GlobalBlogging
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Agreed! Luckily Lola is here to help straighten us all out and remind us of our bizarre social hang-ups.
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Hillarious. The F word is so versatile, however, a simple “No, thank you” would suffice just as well in this situation. 😀 #GlobalBlogging
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I love this! I also don’t think saying “no, thank you” is rude at all. As long as it’s said with a smile and not a scowl, what’s the problem? #GlobalBlogging
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I agree wholeheartedly!
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I’ve always known it to be no, thank you not thank you, no! Everyone is different and as long as you say it nicely with a smile, then I can’t see that (personally) being rude! #GlobalBlogging
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Agreed!
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